Based on the Waverley Abbey Insight Day on Assertiveness led by Chris Ledger, this book will help both those working with others through issues relating to lack of assertiveness, and those who themselves realise their need to learn this skill. `People-pleasers, or those described as non assertive, are often plagued by a need to say yes to every request, ending up looking after other people's needs to the detriment of their own. This can lead to hidden resentment, frustration and anger. `We need to learn to say no where appropriate and to express our thoughts, feelings and desires in a way that doesn't abuse others.' We are shown we first have to identify why we are locked into this people-pleasing habit and then learn a new way of relating. This excellent book informs and helps the reader and has a reflection, activity and prayer at the end of each chapter to assist on this journey of understanding and learning.
Christine worked for 16 years as a counsellor, supervisor and trainer in the NHS, and is now in private practice. She enjoys speaking at Christian meetings both here and abroad, and leads CWR training days. Besides `Inspiring Women Every Day', Chris has written two books, and co-authored the CWR `Insight' series books on anger, anxiety and self-esteem. Christine leads the Prayer Ministry Team at Greyfriars Church, Reading, where she and husband, John, are Licensed Lay Ministers. With a heart to reach the ordinary person in the street with the love of Jesus, she co-leads Prayer Cafe outreach. Having two married daughters and five grandchildren to have fun with, life is never dull! Christine Orme is a freelance writer, editor and teacher, and an Anglican Lay Reader. When she has time she enjoys reading, walking, gardening, patchwork and travel. She and her husband Eddie have four adult children and four small grandchildren. Working with VSO in Sri Lanka after university and before teaching in the UK opened her eyes to the needs of developing countries and sharpened her interest in the Fair Trade movement. Chris's greatest life-challenge to date was losing almost all her hearing in 1986.