In this exciting and original work, Gerald Alper, illuminates the crucial elements that together constitute intimacy. Knowing If It's the Real Thing offers a radical departure from today's popular, yet mythological belief that if two people stay together, in an adaptive, productive, and moderately mutually enhancing way, they will achieve the most a relationship can offer.
Gerald Alper, M.S., a practicing psychotherapist since 1979 and fellow of the American Institute for Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis, is the author of Self Defense in a Narcissistic World: The New Everyday Addiction to Power Trips (Hamilton Books, 2004).
Chapter 1 Preface Chapter 2 In the Beginning: Apprenticeship; First Patient; Joel; Everyday Examples; "Is This the One?"; The Paranoid Moment; Drowning Out the Other; "I Did It My Way"; Respect; The Reviewer; Postmodern Intimacy; I Can't Commit Chapter 3 Obstacles: Working It Trough; "My Feelings For You Have Changed"; "I Don't Want To Talk About It"; "No Problem"; "The War of the Roses"; Self-Help; Counterexample; The Dynamics; Obstacles; Barry; Roy; Sarah; Morris; Negative Closure; Deferred Intim Chapter 4 Therapy and Intimacy: When a Therapist Loves a Patient; When a Therapist Hates a Patient; The Intimate Bond Chapter 5 Conclusion Chapter 6 References