Thirty percent of all men suffer from premature ejaculation and another ten percent from erectile dysfunction. These statistics do not include men who experience too little or too much sexual desire, gender confusion disorders, sexual shyness, or inhibition. Yet there is a great deal of reluctance on the part of men and women alike to talk to each other about these shame-producing troubles. Most women are not aware of the profound effect difficulties in functioning sexually have on a man's sense of self-worth. Through ignorance, partners can significantly exacerbate an already problematic situation; they can also be the pivotal force in helping to resolve them. Margolies carefully explains how men's feelings about having a sexual problem can affect their self-image as well as their feelings about women. She discusses the personality characteristics associated with many problems, how to react when they first occur, as well as what never to say to a dysfunctional man. This practical manual gives up-to-date information about the male body and sexual functioning.
Clearly described exercises and techniques will enable partners to work together to alleviate rather than worsen painful situations. Guidelines to determine those situations where professional help is needed, as well as when it is best to move on, complete this comprehensive, compassionate work.
Eva Margolies, M.A., C.S.T., is the director of the Center for Sexual Recovery in New York City. She is one of the nation's most prominent sex therapists and is certified by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. Author of five books on men, women, and sexuality, including Undressing the American Male, Sensual Pleasure, and The Samson and Delilah Complex, she has been featured in People Magazine and has appeared as an expert on 20/20, The Today Show, Oprah, and CNBC.