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Raise a Happy Teenager: Teach Yourself gives you advice and encouragement to help you manage your child's adolescence and turn these years of conflict into happy, hopeful times. It shows you how to improve communication with your teenager, giving you the insight to tackle all the areas of conflict calmly and confidently, and helping your child become a strong, independent adult.
Written by a leading counsellor who has trained as a teacher and worked with hundreds of teenagers and families like yours, it also offers plenty of real-life stories and sources of further help for anxious or concerned parents.
Raise a Happy Teenager includes:
Chapter 1: The change from child to adolescent
Chapter 2: What do teenagers need?
Chapter 3: Understanding teenage behaviour
Chapter 4: Communication
Chapter 5: Listening and talking, negotiating and compromising
Chapter 6: Whose problem is this?
Chapter 7: Points of conflict
Chapter 8: Helping your teenager to fly
Chapter 9: Looking after yourself
Teach Yourself methods:
Not got much time?
One, five and ten-minute introductions to key principles to get you started.
Lots of instant help with common problems and quick tips for success, based on the authors' many years of experience.
Tests in the book and online to keep track of your progress.
Extend your knowledge
Extra online articles to give you richer guidance through your child's teenage years.
Things to remember
Quick refreshers to help you remember the key facts.
Innovative exercises illustrate what you've learnt and how to use it.
Suzie Hayman is well known for her work as a Relate-trained counsellor and agony aunt on television and in a variety of different papers and magazines. She is the author of over 24 books and gives advice to hundreds of people through her website www.agony-aunt.com.
: INTRODUCTION : 1. Changes; from child to adolescent : Physical changes : Mental changes : Emotional changes : Social changes : 2. What do teenagers need? : The same as usual - love and attention : A different emphasis - `helpful attention' : 3. Understanding behaviour : Identifying the link between feelings, needs and behaviour : Behaviour, not the teenager, is the problem : Modelling expressing needs : Using `I' language : Understanding your own feelings and behaviour : 4. Communication : Everyday chat leading to important talks : How to get out of unhelpful patterns : 5. Listening and talking, negotiating and compromising : Listening is a key skill : Using tone and attention to talk effectively : Giving choices, hearing requests : 6. Whose problem is this? : Separating out our problems from theirs : Learning how to NOT `fix it' : Giving teenagers responsibility : 7. Points of conflict; : Appearance (clothes, hair, make-up, body piercing) : Manners/respect : Tidiness : Homework : School/truancy : Doing chores : Friends : Food and eating : Time to be home : Use of telephone/internet/TV/games station : Use of car, parents as taxi drivers : Parties and other group activities : Drugs : Sex. : 8. Helping them fly : The Circle of Dependence : Encouraging independence and letting go : Parental fears and anxieties about letting them go : 9. Looking after yourselves : How to be self-aware and look after yourself and each other : 10. Final word - Do as I say, not as I do... : Looking to your own life, to model how you want your teens to behave. : APPENDIX : Further Help - organisations providing help and recommended reading list.