WINNER! Mom's Choice Gold Award for parenting books -- Mom's Choice Awards: The best in family-friendly media "My kid is smart, but..." It takes more than school smarts to create a fulfilling life. In fact, many bright children face special challenges: * Some are driven by perfectionism; * Some are afraid of effort, because they're used to instant success; * Some routinely butt heads with authority figures; * Some struggle to get along with their peers; * Some are outwardly successful but just don't feel good about themselves. This practical and compassionate book explains the reasons behind these struggles and offers parents do-able strategies to help children cope with feelings, embrace learning, and build satisfying relationships. Drawing from research as well as the authors clinical experience, it focuses on the essential skills children need to make the most of their abilities and become capable, confident, and caring people.
Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, is a child and family clinical psychologist in Princeton, New Jersey. She is the author or coauthor of several books on children's feelings and friendships. Mark S. Lowenthal, PsyD, has helped many children, teens, and their families during his twenty-two years as a clinical psychologist. His private practice is in Maplewood, New Jersey.
Note to the Reader. Acknowledgments. Introduction: Rethinking Potential. 1 Tempering Perfectionism: What Is Good Enough ? Michael: Focusing on flaws. Kirsten: Deflecting blame. Sam: Avoiding activities at which he doesn t excel. Angela: Feeling inadequate. 2 Building Connection: How Does Your Child Reach Out to Others? Andrew: Seeking an audience rather than a friend. Clay: Avoiding joining the group. Amalia: Feeling rejected by peers. 3 Managing Sensitivity: How Does Your Child Handle Criticism, Conflict, and Disappointment? Mario: Perceiving betrayal. Jessica: Balking at constructive feedback. Samir: Chafing at a change of plans. Collin: Shouldering the world s woes. 4 Handling Cooperation and Competition: How Does Your Child Fit in a Group? Steven: Insisting on his way. Anita: Being a sore loser. Misha: Fearing competition. Craig: Dealing with competition in the family. 5 Dealing with Authority: How Does Your Child Respond to Those in Charge? Lisa: Being blind to authority. Nicholas: Making everything an argument. Stephanie: Fretting about adults anger. 6 Developing Motivation: What Matters to Your Child? Ethan: Avoiding schoolwork. Jared: Complaining that schoolwork is boring. Diane: Not applying herself in school. 7 Finding Joy: What Makes Your Child Feel Happy? Monica: Finding fault instead of fun. Conner: Searching for personal meaning. Conclusion: The Pressure to Perform Versus the Power to Grow. Selected References and Recommended Reading. About the Authors. Index.