Karniol engagingly presents social development in children through the language of preference management. Conversational excerpts garnered from around the world trace how parents talk about preferences, how infants' and children's emergent language conveys their preferences, how children themselves are impacted by others' preferences, and how they in turn influence the preferences of adults and peers. The language of preferences is used to crack into altruism, aggression, and morality, which are ways of coming to terms with other people's preferences. Behind the scenes is a cognitive engine that uses transformational thought - conducting temporal, imaginal, and mental transformations - to figure out other people's preferences and to find more sophisticated means of outmanoeuvring others by persuading them and playing with one's own mind and other people's minds when preferences are blocked. This book is a unique and sometimes amusing must-read for anyone interested in child development, language acquisition, socialisation, and communication.
Rachel Karniol is Professor of Social Development at the Department of Psychology and School of Education, Tel Aviv University, Israel. She has also previously taught at the University of Toronto, Princeton University, Carnegie Mellon University, Tufts University, and the University of Florida. Her work has been published in several edited volumes and in many journals, including Psychological Review, Psychological Bulletin, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Child Development, and Developmental Psychology.
Introduction; 1. The baby 'preference game'; 2. Children's expression of preferences; 3. Emerging meta-preferences; 4. Other people's preferences; 5. Parenting and preference management; 6. Channeling children's preferences; 7. Temporizing preferences; 8. Restricting children's preferences; 9. Disciplining non-compliance; 10. Planes of transformational thought: temporal, imaginal, mental; 11. Manipulating others; 12. Coping and self-regulating; 13. Mind play: applying transformational thought; 14. Minding one's own versus others' preferences: altruism, aggression and morality; 15. Tying up.