When a family member or close friend dies, it can be difficult to know how best to help the children and teenagers involved. Someone Very Important Has Just Died is a practical book written for those caring for children and teenagers suffering a close bereavement. Intended for use immediately or soon after the death has occurred, this book gives practical and detailed guidance on what adults might say and do to help children.
This much-needed resource tackles the sensitive issues of what to tell children, how far to include them in the events immediately after the death, and how to tend to their physical and emotional needs. The material is suitable for anyone regardless of their background and beliefs, and is supplemented with information on where to go to obtain longer term bereavement support.
Someone Very Important Has Just Died is an ideal resource for professionals in all areas of work relating to bereavement. It is designed to be given to adults with children in their care at the time of a death.
Mary Turner is a counsellor and psychotherapist. She has considerable experience working with grieving children and families in social service, hospital, hospice and bereavement service settings. She teaches on university palliative care courses and is author of Talking with Children and Young People about Death and Dying, also published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers. Elaine Bailey is a freelance illustrator.
Preface: Why the need for this book? Introduction. 1. How you may react to the death of someone close. 2. How children and teenagers may react at the time of bereavement. 3. Getting support for yourself and the children. 4. Talking to children and young people about death and funerals. 5. Words you could use. 6. Immediate matters to consider regarding the funeral. 7. Looking after everyone's health and easing stress. 8. The way forward. Useful contacts. For you and the children.