Trauma, Abandonment and Privilege discusses how ex-boarders can be amongst the most challenging clients for therapists; even experienced therapists may unwittingly struggle to skilfully address the needs of this client group. It looks at the effect on adults of being sent away to board in childhood and the problems associated with boarding, which have only recently been acknowledged by mainstream mental health professionals.
This practice-based book is illustrated by case studies, diagrams and exercises and is divided into three parts: `Recognition; Acceptance; Change'. It aims to help readers understand the emotional processes of boarding and the psychological aspects of survival, outlining the steps toward recovery and the repercussions of survival. The book also explores how ex-boarders frequently struggle with intimate relationships with spouses and partners and offers interventions and strategies for those working with ex-boarder clients.
Trauma, Abandonment and Privilege will be of interest to therapists, counsellors and mental health workers across the UK. It will also be relevant to those who are well acquainted with boarding schools based on the UK model, for example in Canada, Australia, New Zealand and India.
Nick Duffell is a psychotherapist and trainer in private practice who pioneered therapeutic work with ex-boarders and specialist training for psychotherapists. He is the author of The Making of Them: The British attitude to children and the boarding school system and Wounded Leaders: British Elitism and the Entitlement Illusion - a psychohistory. Thurstine Basset worked as a social worker, mostly in the mental health field, before entering the world of training and education in the 1980s. He has subsequently written and produced a variety of training packages, articles, book chapters and books in the mental health field. Early in the 21st Century, he attended a Boarding School Survivors Workshop and was a director of Boarding Concern, an organisation that supports boarding school survivors.
Foreword Part 1 Recognition Chapter 1 Introduction Chapter 2 What Therapists Can Do: an overview Chapter 3 Managing Separation and Loss Chapter 4 Survival Chapter 5 Signs, Symptoms and Relationship Issues Part 2 Acceptance Chapter 6 Remembering Chapter 7 Adapting Chapter 8 Trauma Chapter 9 Sex: Puberty, Gender, and Abuse Part 3 Change Chapter 10 The Healing Process Chapter 11 Unmasking Survival Patterns Chapter 12 Homecoming Postscript Boarding in the 21st Century Appendix Useful Organisations